Stages of We

When you're in your 20s, childhood issues are annoyances you stash away and try not to think about or talk about.

When you're in your 30s, childhood issues become more painful and you start to realize you can't carry them around anymore without doing something. So you start to verbalize. The low side is that you can also start to act out from the pain you're feeling. This is a fragile time.

When you're in your 40s, you get help.

What happens next I don't quite know, but maybe somebody who's ahead of me on this curve can tell me? I want to think by the time I get to my 50s I will have processed it all and found a stable and profoundly healed and healing place. I think that's what God wants for all of us.

We weren't designed to lug our emotional baggage through life. Too hard.